Episode 80: Mastering the Law of Attraction with Constance Arnold
In this episode, Emily interviews Constance Arnold, one of the world's most popular international radio talk show hosts. She has a platform that has reached and served over 15 million people. She's a renowned motivational speaker, author, leadership trainer, and success coach.
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Constance: What can you begin to believe? It might be something as simple as I am open to the unlimited abundance and prosperity that it is available to me to receive. Now, you may not know how. Begin with something simple. Begin to meditate. Meditate means to roll in your mind over and over again. Begin to think about, begin to fear.
What would it feel like to have all of the money? So you embody, you become one with, and you own that new empowering belief. And then from that place, eventually your life will really manifests abundance.
Emily: I love how you said, "What can you begin to believe?: And even the example that you gave was like, I am open to the idea of, I think sometimes we think with affirmations that we have to be so resolute. And it's like, it's that little opening. Can I begin? Can I be open to this?
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So with that, I cannot wait to dive into this interview today with Constance Arnold and Constance is one of the world's most popular international radio talk show hosts. She has a platform that has reached and served over 15 million people. She's a renowned motivational speaker, author, leadership trainer, and success coach, and for more than 25 years, Constance has been providing private coaching and training to help her clients create and live their best life.
She's an absolute master of Law of attraction. You guys are going to learn so much in this interview, so without further a. Here we go. Hello and welcome back to the M Makes Money Show. I am so happy to be here with Constance Arnold Constance, thank you so much for joining me today.
Constance: You're welcome. I'm excited.
Emily: Me too. So I have the joy of being on your podcast and these reciprocal ones are my favorite cuz I feel like we already kind of know each other. Yes. And then now I get to learn more about you. So I am super curious to hear your backstory and how you got into law of attraction.
Constance: Long story short, I have a counseling and a therapy background.
I always knew that there was more, more to God, more to spirit. I grew up in a good old Baptist church. I'm from the South. In 2009, I was supposed to get married. I had listened to the Secret and had been just curious. I've always been a platform speaker. But in 2009, I fell and I broke my ankle, and the doctor said, "Constant, you have to be in a wheelchair.".
Girlfriend, you can't put no weight on your ankle. You need to heal for two months. I had just bought a new condo, but a month earlier than that, my fiance, who I was supposed to get married to, said, "This is not gonna work." Because remember the 2007, 2008 real estate market crash, and I'm lying in my bed because I can't walk on my, I moved into my new condo.
Somebody had to live with me. Unpack for me. And I'm lying in my bed with my eyes closing. I'm like, "What God? What is going on?" And I just heard a whisper. I'm not saying an audible voice, but I just felt like the spirit said to me, love attraction radio network. And I'm like, "What?" And so I wrote it down and I contacted the founder and that was the beginning of me doing my radio show.
But I was hungry, I was thirsty. I knew that there was more to spirit life. God, I've always been a out of the box thinker and mover and shake. But I just knew that there was more than just what I had been exposed to. I read every book. Went to every seminar, but I wanted that more inner spiritual touch. So that's sort of like my journey.
I was hungry, I was starving. I never believed that You had to work hard for money. I didn't have it when I was a child, but I knew that money should come to you easy, but I didn't know how.
Emily: Wow. Okay. I'm so curious. Given that you grew up in the Baptist Church, were there any beliefs that needed to shift for you around?
I just find that often with Christianity it's like, God is so big. Then it actually just makes us feel so small and Oh yeah. And with law of attraction, I feel like it, part of it is reclaiming our power in the co-creative relationship. Did you always have that or did you have to sort of rewrite that for yourself?
Oh no Honey, I had to write an encyclopedia. I grew up in a good old Baptist black church, and this is the funny part, Emily. And I married a Methodist minister, and one of the reasons that we got divorced was because I knew that there was more. So we saw God as punitive. It was performance based. If you don't give your ti, you're tithe, gonna be cursed.
You're not gonna be blessed. And I kept saying, surely a loving God. Why would a God send me to hell and why would there be a devil? So I began to question those things. It didn't sit right with me, and that really began my search, and that's why I believe I have a large audience because they know. When people say, "Are you still a Christian?"
I say, "God is bigger than the Bible.". And when I say that, man, I get all kinda email, oh boy, all kinda hate mail. God is bigger than the Bible. And that I would say that I am more of a spiritual being now. And I do believe the Christ would then, but I had to unravel all of that. There were many years when I felt alone, Emily, because I'm like, that's not true.
God is not punitive. God is not mad at us. God is not angry with us. So for me it was years of unraveling of, uh, changing my way of thinking and being an African American woman, you gotta go to church every Sunday and every Wednesday. But I began to question, and my curiosity began to just expand. And when I began to see people who were just using universal principles. I'm like something, I smell a rat.
Something isn't right here. So yes, it was years of changing my paradigm of really sometimes losing friends and really just some isolation while I change my belief systems.
Emily: And if there's someone listening to you that's like, I wanna change my belief systems, but I don't know how to do. Where's the starting point.
I think the starting point is whatever is showing up in your life repeatedly. Is a sign that something you have a belief system around, we're gonna say money. And so if you are always broke, if you always are struggling, if you always get jobs where you're not paid a lot of money. That is a sign because what I didn't know back then was you are constantly objectifying your consciousness of what you truly believe.
And so just take a look at your life and let's just say you are always struggling of being the therapist that I am. Emily, I would tell people to just take a blank piece of paper and write down at your core. What do you really believe? You gotta work hard for money. One of my belief was if you are African American woman, you gonna have to work 10 times harder.
We were told that you gotta be work 10 times harder and smarter. And then my other belief was, well, you can't make your own money. You gotta marry money. And I did. But I would say to the person, write down on that piece of paper, what do you believe when you lie your head on the pill at night, what in your core, are you afraid of money?
Are you thinking, well, I could never get that job because I don't have a degree? Write down those core beliefs because we know that Emily, so in. Those beliefs are formed in us usually by the time we are seven, because children are in the vibration of the theta state until they are seven. Yeah. That's why they can absorb so much.
What was your childhood like? What did you hear? My father used to say, Constance, we can't afford. And in my mind, I said to myself, man, when I grow up, I'm gonna buy everything I did. And that's exactly what I did. I would say, look at your childhood. What did this feel like in your household? Was it tense?
Were there a lot of arguments around money? And just look at your own life because it is an out picturing of what you truly believe deep down in your gut, deep down in your. Write those down. And then I would say, what can you begin to believe? It might be something as simple as I am open to the unlimited abundance and prosperity that it is available to me to receive.
Now you may not know how. Begin with something simple. Begin to meditate. Meditate means to roll in your mind over and over again. Begin to think about, begin to fear. What would it feel like to have all of the money? So you embody, you become one with and you own. That new empowering belief and then from that place, eventually your life will really manifest abundance.
Emily: I love how you said ask yourself. What can you begin to believe? And even the example that you gave was like, I am open to the idea of, I think sometimes we think with affirmations that we have to be so resolute and it's like it's that little opening, can I be begin? Can I be open to this? And when we say it that way, then our body has so much less resistance.
Oh, okay. You know, I can be open.
Constance: That is so true, Emily, because a scientist have shown that everything is pure energy and just a tiny shift in our energy. We're light, but a tiny shift in our energy begins to move. The atoms. Yeah. In our lives. And then they're gonna track other atoms. So maybe if you've been struggling, you can't believe I'm a millionaire, but can you believe I am beginning to become open?
to learn and receive more abundance and prosperity. Start there and baby step your way with that. And when you do that consistently with just a little bit of faith, a little bit of, I can believe that then all of the atoms in the world begin to shift and align with that one belief.
Constance: Can I share a quick story?
Emily: Yes, please.
Constance: I know of one guy, he was illiterate, didn't hardly know anything. Couldn't hardly read good, but he said all he knew was the Lord is my shepherd and I shall not want. He took that one thing. That's what he thought about. He would meditate on it while he was working. Just a minimum wage and he would go and meditate.
He said like in a little quiet space. He didn't know anything about the start market, and then he just began to read up on it. Long story short, that one vibration, because we know meditation and vi and the thinking is vibrational. That one vibration. He invested in his first stock, didn't know anything about it.
He said that he began to get downloads from the universe, or from the spirit or from God, and the spirit would say, invest in craft foods. I'm just using that. Yeah. He became a multi multimillionaire with that one mantra. . So I wanna say to people, just get one and start there and begin shifting energy.
Emily: And do you find that there are any myths or misconceptions in the world of law of attraction?
Constance: Oh honey., do we have time? ? I think that one myth is, and I've interviewed probably every. Famous expert in the law of attractions. I basically heard it all and walked it out. I think that a lot of people think that all you need to do is like, attracts like. That's true. And so they get a vision board. I just told somebody this morning, Hey, getting a vision board is a great story, but I want you to get the vision on the inside of you.
Pull it down from that wall and get it inside of you. But I think that a lot of people are very outside-principal-centered. And by that I mean okay, I'm gonna get a vision board. I'm gonna do my affirmations. I'm going to see myself already having it, and that's the law of attraction. I believe the myth is that it's outside, but really the truth is law of attraction is inside.
And let me give you a great example. If you want more money, this is the money show. I would say that you go inside by beginning to possibly use that affirmation that I. and then begin to see yourself something small, see yourself. What would it look and feel like for you if you had more money? We're inside.
What would that feel like? What would you be doing? Who would you be with? How philanthropic would you be? What would you be wearing? What would your conversations be? So I would say one myth is that everybody thinks it's just a vision board, but really it's that inside self talk of who you. What do you believe you can be, do and have?
Who are you? I'm a child of God. I'm a power for manifester. I'm one with God and one with all there is. And that as you gradually begin to shift your paradigms, which is nothing more than what you think, believe, feel, say all your past experie. That you are really not attracting, you're vibrating out.
You're being or becoming abundant. That word, that's a transformational word that ain't overnight. Y'all, you are becoming more prosperous in your thinking, and as you do, little things begin to happen to you. So I would say go inside.
Emily: I love that and I think any of us who sort of step into this type of work, Ultimately we become our own best testimonial.
So I would love for you to just share with our audience, like what are some of the transformations that you've had, and some can be non-monetary because those are super important. But also I would love for us to just talk about the money as well.
Constance: Talk about money. Grew up with a great mom and dad. My father only made probably a hundred dollars a month. I didn't know anybody with money. We lived on air property, et cetera. I was the first person in my community to even get a master's degree. You talking about pressure and feel like I had to perform, but it was something in me. I said that it was the spirit.
I'm like always like the best, desired, the best. It was just something in me that when I saw beauty, when I saw luxury. Something on the inside of me really leaked. Went to college, got my master's degree, and I'm like, how in the world am I going ever get some money helping folk? So I married money and that did not work. I just began to go inside like I shared, and I worked for corporate America. I'm too out of the box for corporate America. And then I became a school counselor. and I knew that it was time for me to go when the kids came in, I'm like, I'm getting ready to, they might have to call it Department of Family and Children Service.
So I'm getting ready to pinch one of these little kids that keep coming up in here. But I began to, I knew that my gift was platform speaking. I had been doing a lot of, speaking, a lot of. Free pro bono. I mean, I would speak if brown bag situation, call me. I'm there. So I had been doing a lot of that, but in my mind I began to see it. And so I did a lot of meditating and I got a download that just, and when I say a download, just a idea, a hunch said, prepare for that witch. You wish to experience? So I was great at training and I just prepared some modules on self-esteem and just general counseling stuff. But I saw myself making money, et cetera.
So a friend of mine said there is a lady in Dublin, Georgia, which is two hours away from Atlanta South that's looking for someone to speak on Dress for Success. And I'm like, I don't wanna drive to. This is a point for listeners. You never know the one showing up for yourself time that's gonna open big doors.
So I showed up and it wasn't, I didn't feel that it was my best presentation because that's not my bag. So when I got through, the lady came up to me and she said, "You were so wonderful." I said, "thank you." She said, "I have $200,000." When she said that, because I could barely put gas in my car at that time, and she said I have $200,000 that I need to use before the end of the physical year. She said, "Would you be open to"", I'm like, where can I sign on the dotted line? I mean, can we do it right now? And so that was the beginning of me making my first six figure deal and for 20. , I would say I made millions really doing those contracts, and it started with me just showing up with that one thing.
But on the inside, I prepared, I was ready and I was expecting every time I had the opportunity to speak. This could be it, because you never know who's listening. I'm a big proponent of planting seeds, of serving. What can I give? It's a universal law. When you're planting seeds, when you are serving, it comes back to you and I have been on some of the major platforms of the world.
That's one money story. You wanna hear another one? Yeah, everything I got, so went through my divorce. I filed bankruptcy and so when you file bankruptcy, you, I felt shame. Shame on you. Shame says there's something wrong with you. Guilt says you did something wrong. I felt shame. Oh my God. What if somebody finds out what everybody found out?
But I begin to change my thinking. That doesn't define. Because I knew of the wealth that was on the inside of me. So my first condo that I bought, and I tell people, just show up. When you show up, money will show up for you. I have a friend, Jayden Sterling. He says, big money is looking for big ideas. And so I just began to think big, okay, this is my condo.
I would go over there and drive every day. I made my friends go over there. I said, this is where I'm gonna be living. I got bankruptcy on my record now. But I tell you, when you shift your paradigm, The entire universe would come to support you financially in very surprising ways. Long story short, the realtor, he was a broker, he said to me, he said, constant, I like you and you doing so much good.
He said, I got a special lady that's going to help you. Don't worry about the closing cause I'm gonna handle everything. So I share that particular story for people who may think that, oh, I don't have the money to buy a. But if you get in the vibration, what is the vibration? To me is the feeling. It's the thinking. It's the expectation. My thing is, if God has to go past 7 billion people to get what you are holding in your imagination, that will happen. And that's what I did. So for anybody who's listening who might be saying, well, you too, got it going on, I don't have a lot money. Become wealthy in your. That's what I did.
I got a million stories, but I'm gonna stop there.
Emily: Okay. That is super helpful though. And I think just to take it further, Maybe you can share what does life look like now? How much money flows and does it all flow in through your business, or do you have lots of ways that money comes to you?
Constance: I learned a powerful lesson.
It took me years to learn this, that God or Spirit is my unlimited source and supply, not my business, not my coaching. Not my speaking. And so I do have avenues, but that's my center point. Yeah. So if I start looking at, oh, I just finished your retreat also, oh, if I do X number of retreat, then I'm gonna make X number of dollars. And in my business, I only move as I am led to move. If I feel like I need to do something by the end of the year. I'm doing that from a place of abundance, not trying to get something. So when you're in that abundant vibration, becuase I've been there where I'm like, well, I'm gonna do seminar every month and make X number of dollars.
So money flows into me. I get unexpected money all of the time. I have a affirmation that I. Because money has the ear, because it's vibrational. We live in a vibrational universe. Everything vibrates and this energy, and I say money, I'm talking to you today. You come to me from the northwest, east and south.
I believe that with everything in me. I look at the map, I know where the north is, the west, the E, the north and the south. And money comes to me from surprise places. , but it also comes to me through my coaching. I still have my consulting business and through my retreats, and of course I do my radio show and people make contributions there. But I've learned the hard way, Emily. You don't limit the spirit. I'm fine. I God is infinite. There are unlimited possibilities and opportunities for money to get to all of us.
Emily: Yes. I love that because I do find that sometimes, like when we find ourselves doing math or writing out business goals, it's like taking all of the infinite possibilities and putting it down to the one way that we end up getting attached to.
And we think, well, it's gotta happen this way. And it's like, no, it doesn't until we believe it does. And then all of a sudden God's like, oh. So I had so many cool plans for you, but you want me to thread that needle? Yeah. I mean, alright. It's gonna take more time. It's gonna be harder.
Constance: It is. I had to learn that the hard way becuase I was so fixed on, because I got repeated contracts year after year, decade after decade than all of a sudden they said, "Constance, the federal government has changed." And since I have been such a baller traveling all over the world, Emily doing this, doing this, paying. I wasn't really ready for it, and that's when I got the powerful download of God is my unlimited source and supply. In the quantum world right now, there are unlimited possibilities and probabilities just waiting for you to focus on.
So I would say don't get fixed on one thing. Be open. Just be open. You may say I don't know how, but I'm open to new ideas, new opportunities, new methods, new ways of doing things, new connections, and just see what happens.
Emily: And I think this is something in the law of attraction work that sometimes feels like a conundrum for people on the one hand we're saying get so specific, the vision board, what's it gonna look like? How's it gonna feel in internalizing. . And then on the other hand we're saying be open to any which way and any experience. So do you have any guidance for people around that balance between specificity and receptivity?
Well, if you look at the universe, the universe is very detailed and I tell people, what do you want? Let's start with that. What do you want? Write it down or type it up. At first, you may be very general. I want a new home, or I want a new home in Arizona. I want a new home in Arizona. Split level, where does swimming, pulling it back.
So I would say be very, just be general and then narrow it in certainly, because what that does is that causes you to focus. We know that wherever your attention goes, energy flows and. I would take a look at your belief system. What do you believe about what you just wrote down those core beliefs again.
And then I would say, what baby steps can you begin to take? That align with that dream? What kind of support? I call it creating your dream team. Do you need some other folks to help you who might be more experienced? Do everything you know how to do in the natural. But then you have to detach from how it's going to show up.
I just had a friend call me yesterday. She used to be my chef until she got famous, and you know how that goes, Emily, but she said, My grandmother just deeded me her home, and I'm so shocked. That's a prime example, but in her law of retraction world, she was trying to buy an apartment in New York. So I would say that the universe, once again, has a million ways to get to you what you desire.
Certainly be specific, write it. Have a plan. Take baby steps. See yourself already be doing and having the thing, but you've gotta get rid of rigidity and almost detach like Depop Chopra said, from how it is going to manifest. I think you gotta be flexible flow in the spirit. I thought I should apply at banks to get this new house.
But maybe people on your dream team, those are just people who believe in you. They got a clear vision of what you want, they going to help you. I said they help you in the weak areas of your life, but you gotta detach from it. And like, uh, Mike Duley said, detach from the cursing house. Certainly take baby steps.
But I think that's what faith comes. Faith that I do not know how, but I am trusting this loving, giving spirit who loves me and adores me so much to empower me. The same spirit that created the universe is in you to bring this to pass in my life. So you have to be specific but detached.
Emily: Okay. I love that.
Now you have a therapy background and you're a master teacher in law of attraction. In therapy, at least my perception is that often we go into the pain or into the trauma or into the problem. And with law of attraction, it's sort of like, just think of better feeling thought and just change how you feel and that changes your point of attraction.
And there is some talk out there that law of attraction is spiritually bypassing. . It's like just dancing around the shadow work and dancing around the trauma and just trying to think and feel your way into something great without dealing with the shit. What do you say to that?
Constance: I say I get that now as a therapist, I don't believe you have to stay in your stuff forever, but I believe we are body, soul, and spirit. And our soul is where our stuff is housed. Our subconscious mind. Everything that has ever happened to us, every motion, every feeling, our past, every trauma is stored there. And since the subconscious rules and directs 95% of our lives, and we don't even know that it's controlling us, you got two programs running simultaneously.
So when you may consciously say, I want more money, but dog going to that subconscious is going to always win and be most dominant. So as a therapist, I ask people, let's take a look at really what's been holding you back. What are your blocks? And I call it a way to really, we are taking the debris off.
It's kind of like if you've been in a hurricane, we're taking all of the debris out so that you can be creative and the law of attraction can flow through a clear place in your consciousness. And so I don't believe, and God helped me, I, I might be wrong, but I believe that a heal soul. Makes healthy choices a heal soul, which is what I told you.
Your past experience changes the view of how you see yourself. Your heal soul changes your perspective. It changes your identity, where you can say, wow, abundance is my birthright, and you really believe it because you've dealt with that trauma from your childhood. You've dealt with that trauma from that last relationship, et cetera. And I see people and have worked with people who try to bypass it. Cause baby whatever is in is going to come out. They get the money. I'm talking about, I've worked with some celeb football players, 40 million. and then seven years later, they don't have any money. Why not? Because they never dealt with that trauma.
They still had a lack consciousness, so they bought 10 houses and 10 farraris, and 10 everything else. They never had a wealth consciousness, so I say, give yourself the gift. Of healing your soul, healing your trauma, and really from those places, wealth and abundance can come. I'm sure you've heard this, Emily.
Your mess is your message becomes, your mess turns into your ministry. So we've heard of people who just went through trauma and then they said, well, I got healed of drugs, and then I had a mental health issue. And then more people start following them and it was their mess. That was hell that turned into the message that attracted wealth.
Emily: I love that so much and that's been my experience for myself and with my clients is like you really can't bypass. And so it's both. And we they, in the trauma. But we don't just try to think better feeling thoughts. It's like you do some healing and you shift your point of attraction, you do some healing and you shift your point of attraction.
Constance: You said that so eloquently and usually with my clients, simultaneously, I have them healing over here, but over here we're shifting. Yeah. And so simultaneously we are doing the same thing.
Emily: Totally. I love that so much.
Constance: I love the questions.
Emily: Oh, thank you. You're such a fun person to interview and I love your life experiences that you worked with, celebrity football players and in corporate, and just all different kinds of people.
Constance: Something just came to me and since I am an African American woman, I can say this and I get the question all of the time. Well, because of my background, because I'm a minority, because of oppression and all of that, can I still attract money? And I'm not denying that any of that happened. Y'all scout and see I'm a black woman, but I believe that yes, it may take a little bit more work, but man, when your spirit is so much stronger, bigger, bolder, once you hear your soul than all of that. I just wanted to throw that in because I get that question all of the time.
Emily: Yeah. Well, I think you're very tuned into the question that I had, which I think it's important for coaches to acknowledge privilege and acknowledge when there are parts of the deck that are stacked against you being female. It is harder being a woman of color. It is harder, however, It's like is tricky for me is acknowledging it and also making sure that it's like we don't wanna attach to any sort of victim story because it just means that your rise gets to be like that much more inspiring and empowering for you. Your family tree, your lineage, your whole community.
Constance: Yeah, somebody asked Oprah Winfrey, she was driving course, she wasn't driving. She was sitting in the back of her li. They were at a stop sign and whoever was with her said, Oprah, what's the difference between you and that person sitting over there and that car? And she said, I always believed above my color and the conditions that she was in because her grandmother said to her, you gonna be a wash woman. Other people's clothes. So there does have to be an acknowledgement if your environment has been one of poverty, if all you have ever seen has been lack. I mean, I acknowledge all of that.
But I tell people a, mine is a terrible thing to waste. What can we begin to do with your mind? How can we get. More exposure. I remember when I didn't have a lot of money, I would go to the Ritz Carton and I'm like, okay, I can pay for valet parking, have a cup of tea. They gonna gimme these little tea cakes.
And I would go there and sit decades ago. I said one day, be able to spend the night here. So I think it's a change of mindset for all minorities who are listening. It's a change of exposure. We're not denying that's your past. It's a change of exposure, a change of thinking. A mindset change and then begin to baby step your way, it may take you longer.
Okay? For some of my white and my European clients who said, I feel guilty because I'm privileged and I am privileged. I'm like, I don't know all the ways of God. But since you acknowledge that, how, if you desire to do so, how can you help others? Do you wanna do that? How can you share some of your experiences with others to help elevate them?
Yeah, and so as a therapist, you know this as a coach, you do have to acknowledge where people are.
Emily: One of the things that's so special about you, Constance, and just your story is you were always willing to believe it until you saw it. I just love that visual of you being in the Ritz and it was like you just held the belief despite any other circumstances until your outer environment matched your belief, and that's really what it's all about. And you're such a living example of that.
Constance: Well, thank you for that. And I did that with everything. You got time for a quick story. Long story short, I was buying another house and I was in my condo. It's time to move on up. Moving on up. So I was buying it from this lady that was a flight attendant and so. I said, while you are gone, can I come and lie in the hammock? She had a hammock on the screened in porch so that I could see myself already living here. I know she was like, this woman is kinda weird. She said, sure. So I would go, didn't have the financing yet, and I put my, I would lie in the hammock and I would live in the end not knowing all the details of how it's gonna come to pass.
And say, wow, this is my new home. I would listen to the birds. I would take me a cup of coffee in my coffee mug. This is where I'm gonna sit and have breakfast. So I saw myself with it on the insect. The Bible says, whatever you imagine will not be withheld from you. So I just held that in. I made my friends come.
I said, Hey, look at my new house. And they're like, oh, not again, Constance. Here we go. So I engaged them. And every night before I went to sleep, I saw myself driving in that driveway already having what I desired. Didn't know all the how, but it is mine and it is mine now. And when you are in that vibration of faith and expectancy, a way will be made for you.
Emily: So Constance, everyone whose listening that wants to connect with you. Where do you hang out? How can they find you?
Constance: Well, honey, they can find me. Uh, Instagram and my assistant said, get this right now. Instagram and TikTok is law of attraction constantce. Of course, I have over 700. Archive shows on the Law of Retraction radio network.
I get tired just saying that uh, Facebook is coached with Constance, Twitter, l o l o a, Constance, and of course, uh, YouTube is Constance Arnold.
Emily: Amazing. So we will make sure all of those are in the show notes. And then my final question, One of my missions is to help women discover and embody their lux life.
So I would love to hear from you, what is your definition of your lux life?
Constance: I would say my definition of my lux life is to be a demonstration, first, to be a demonstration and a light, and to walk in that, living that and be that, and then give people. Insight, healing and strategies to move them from where they are to where they desire to be.
Emily: You're amazing. You are such a gem. Thank you so much for coming on the show.
Constance: I hope I didn't tell too many of my stories.
Emily: No such thing?
Constance: You are amazing. And you know, as a friend said, if I'm amazing, I'm just a reflection of you, my sister.
Emily: I love that. Well, what a joy reflecting back to each other, all of our gifts and everything that we're doing, and
Constance: Thank you.
Emily: Isn't Constance such a gem. I just love her and she is so on mission. I think this woman is relentless in her desire to help others live their best life, and it just oozes out of her. And I have so much respect and admiration as well for people who did not grow up in the generation of technology. And this woman is on Tiktok. She's on YouTube.
She's utilizing all of this modern technology to get her message across. I just love that so much. So make sure that you connect with her whatever platform works for you. I always love Instagram, so she's at Law of Attraction Constance and let her know that you listen to the show and what your takeaways were.
Here are mine.
Number one, you've gotta bring your belief inside of you from the vision board into your body.
Number two, using affirmations like I'm open to beginning to see that I'm made for wealth really helps us become more receptive without running into so much resistance. Number three, can you believe it until you see it? Putting yourself into that end state, like Constance stood at the Ritz and laying in the hammock at her neighbor's. Putting yourself into that end state and knowing that what you want is on its way.
Number four, the subconscious mind always wins. So if we try to spiritually bypass, it will catch up with us, but we can heal and shift at the same time.
And number five, God is my infinite supply, not my business, not my spouse.
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